By Sandy Cabral
Do you know what men want and women don’t? Have you ever considered the gender differences in your relationship? What observations have you come to realize? Do you know the triggers and tricks to make your relationship a lasting one? Read what happens to this couple in a surprising turn of events that gives you a unique insight. After all breaking up is bad enough, but what makes a man or woman take back the other when the trust is broken in the relationship? Is it the insecurities one feels or the fear of loneliness, or something else entirely?
A woman is working away at the office on Monday morning, when the phone rings at around 10:00am. She answers it promptly, thinking of course that it is work related. When a woman caller on the other end asks for her, she quickly answers, “This is her, how can I help you?” The woman caller goes on to say, “I work with your husband and I thought you should know that he is having an affair here at work with another woman and it has been going on for a long time.” The now stunned woman asks, “Who is this and how do you know for sure?” The woman replies, “I have seen them kissing, hugging, fooling around and so have others here at work” and hangs up the phone. The still stunned woman sits there with her mind racing over the possibility of, is this true? Knowing that her husband leaves for work at 2:30pm, she tells her boss that she has an emergency at home and has to leave right away.
She arrives home to find him already dressed for work. He asks her, “What are you doing home so early? Are you sick?” She replies, “Why are you already dressed for work when you don‘t have to be there until 2:30pm, that’s 4 hours from now?” He answers, “I was going to go look around at the mall before I have to go to work.” She said, “We need to talk. I received a phone call this morning from a woman who works with you. She told me that you are having an affair with another woman at work for a long time. She said that she has seen you two kissing, hugging and fooling around and other people there at work have seen you.” He denies everything and asks who the woman was? The wife tells him that she doesn’t know who the woman is. “Is it true? Are you having an affair? Who is it with?” He denies everything again. She is very upset and tells him, “Someone just doesn’t call you up out of the blue and tells you that your husband is having an affair, if he isn’t having an affair! Do you think I am stupid?” He answers, “No”, walks out the door and drives away in his car.
She waits up for him that night to continue the conservation further. He walks in and begins to tell her, “Before you say anything, I have to tell you that I have been put on suspension for 3 days for inappropriate behavior with a co-worker.” She asks, “What inappropriate behavior are we talking about and who is it with?” He tells her that he was just comforting the woman and that a hug lead to kissing. He was fired from his job after the 3 day suspension at the end of the week when the allegations were proven to be true.
Why do you think the husband continued lieing to his wife, even after she confronted him with the truth? Is anyone really able to trust your significant other when it comes to the opposite sex? Does working opposite shifts and spending less time with one another have anything to do with what happens in your relationship? What does your gender observations tell you ????
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Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Monday, May 3, 2010
Moral Defects
By Sandy Cabral
Have you ever been curious as to why men and women lie? Or the extent of the little white lies? Well, this observation deals with quite a few moral issues to say the very least! Care to rattle some old Skeletons brought to mind by anyone out there……
The month was November, in fact right around Thanksgiving, when a Mother with her four children drove 12 hours to visit her in-laws at the lake for a holiday family reunion. Her husband said he couldn’t take off work just then, but that he would join them on Thanksgiving day, celebrate his birthday the following day, and then drive back home all together. He insisted she take the children and go on ahead. Thanksgiving day came and gone with no arrival of the Husband and Father. She kept calling him at home and work, but no answer, so she left messages. She even called the neighbors to have them check to see if he was ok. They confirmed they saw him leaving the house, but that he wasn’t home right now. Worried, that he didn’t return her calls and didn‘t show up for Thanksgiving, she decided to drive home with the children.
When they arrived home, he wasn’t there. She called his work and this time someone else answered the phone and said he hasn’t been there since the day before Thanksgiving. Just then the front door opens and in walks the Husband and Father of her children, surprised to see them. She asks him why he hasn’t returned her calls? He says he has been working double shifts for the extra money for the holidays. She tells him, she called his work and was told that he hasn’t been to work since before Thanksgiving day. She then tells him that he isn’t dressed in his work clothes now, so where has he been? He said that he had gone to the store, but wasn’t going to drive 12 hours for just two days to be with his family because he was too tired from working so much. And he doesn’t know who she talked to, but he has been working in another area of the plant to get the extra holiday hours. She understands, drops the subject and makes a special dinner to show her appreciation for all of his hard work.
The next day is his birthday and he had to work. She makes the coffee, packs his lunch. He gives her a big hug, long kiss and squeezes her behind before he rushes out the door. Later that morning, she and the children call him to see how his day is going and to wish him a happy birthday. He says don’t put the children on the phone, I want a divorce and hangs up the phone. She now is devastated, confused and waits for his arrival at home. He finally comes home late at night when the children are in bed. He tells his wife that he never loved her at all for the 20 years that they have been married and he wants a divorce, then hides his head underneath the throw pillows on the couch. She says “that can’t be true, you made love to me last night. We need to talk about whatever is bothering you and work things out. Are you having an affair?” He says he isn’t having any affair, the marriage is over with, grabs her by the hair dragging her out to the car yelling that she needs to get out. The children wake up, see there Father, start yelling and crying for him not to take their Mother away. He runs back into the house to the bedroom and locks the door. She calls the minister at their church for guidance. The minister arrives to speak to them separately, because the husband refuses to discuss it all together. The husband leaves the house after talking to the minister. The minister tells the wife that he believes her husband is having an affair because he couldn’t face him when he was asked the question about an affair.
So the next day, the wife and her girlfriend decided to disguise themselves and follow the husband when he left the house. They followed him, in another friends car, to a house on the far side of the city. She wrote down the address and contacted a private investigator the following day. Within the next few months the investigator had enough evidence to confirm that the husband was having an affair with another married woman that he worked with at the plant. He had pictures, witnesses and evidence that it had been going on for over 2 years. She started the divorce proceedings that same day.
Why do you think he lied about the affair, if the marriage was over? Why didn’t he leave her 2 years ago? What about saying that he never loved her at all? Do you think he was lying to himself? Why didn’t she confront them when she followed him to that house? The other woman is married too! Lies, lies, lies!!! What about the four children and how their lives are changed forever? What is happening to our society? Is it easier to give up than to work together on a marriage? What is your gender observations telling you about today’s morals ????
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Have you ever been curious as to why men and women lie? Or the extent of the little white lies? Well, this observation deals with quite a few moral issues to say the very least! Care to rattle some old Skeletons brought to mind by anyone out there……
The month was November, in fact right around Thanksgiving, when a Mother with her four children drove 12 hours to visit her in-laws at the lake for a holiday family reunion. Her husband said he couldn’t take off work just then, but that he would join them on Thanksgiving day, celebrate his birthday the following day, and then drive back home all together. He insisted she take the children and go on ahead. Thanksgiving day came and gone with no arrival of the Husband and Father. She kept calling him at home and work, but no answer, so she left messages. She even called the neighbors to have them check to see if he was ok. They confirmed they saw him leaving the house, but that he wasn’t home right now. Worried, that he didn’t return her calls and didn‘t show up for Thanksgiving, she decided to drive home with the children.
When they arrived home, he wasn’t there. She called his work and this time someone else answered the phone and said he hasn’t been there since the day before Thanksgiving. Just then the front door opens and in walks the Husband and Father of her children, surprised to see them. She asks him why he hasn’t returned her calls? He says he has been working double shifts for the extra money for the holidays. She tells him, she called his work and was told that he hasn’t been to work since before Thanksgiving day. She then tells him that he isn’t dressed in his work clothes now, so where has he been? He said that he had gone to the store, but wasn’t going to drive 12 hours for just two days to be with his family because he was too tired from working so much. And he doesn’t know who she talked to, but he has been working in another area of the plant to get the extra holiday hours. She understands, drops the subject and makes a special dinner to show her appreciation for all of his hard work.
The next day is his birthday and he had to work. She makes the coffee, packs his lunch. He gives her a big hug, long kiss and squeezes her behind before he rushes out the door. Later that morning, she and the children call him to see how his day is going and to wish him a happy birthday. He says don’t put the children on the phone, I want a divorce and hangs up the phone. She now is devastated, confused and waits for his arrival at home. He finally comes home late at night when the children are in bed. He tells his wife that he never loved her at all for the 20 years that they have been married and he wants a divorce, then hides his head underneath the throw pillows on the couch. She says “that can’t be true, you made love to me last night. We need to talk about whatever is bothering you and work things out. Are you having an affair?” He says he isn’t having any affair, the marriage is over with, grabs her by the hair dragging her out to the car yelling that she needs to get out. The children wake up, see there Father, start yelling and crying for him not to take their Mother away. He runs back into the house to the bedroom and locks the door. She calls the minister at their church for guidance. The minister arrives to speak to them separately, because the husband refuses to discuss it all together. The husband leaves the house after talking to the minister. The minister tells the wife that he believes her husband is having an affair because he couldn’t face him when he was asked the question about an affair.
So the next day, the wife and her girlfriend decided to disguise themselves and follow the husband when he left the house. They followed him, in another friends car, to a house on the far side of the city. She wrote down the address and contacted a private investigator the following day. Within the next few months the investigator had enough evidence to confirm that the husband was having an affair with another married woman that he worked with at the plant. He had pictures, witnesses and evidence that it had been going on for over 2 years. She started the divorce proceedings that same day.
Why do you think he lied about the affair, if the marriage was over? Why didn’t he leave her 2 years ago? What about saying that he never loved her at all? Do you think he was lying to himself? Why didn’t she confront them when she followed him to that house? The other woman is married too! Lies, lies, lies!!! What about the four children and how their lives are changed forever? What is happening to our society? Is it easier to give up than to work together on a marriage? What is your gender observations telling you about today’s morals ????
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