By Sandy Cabral
What do men want and women don’t in a relationship? In our society today can men and women be in a monogamist relationship til death do us part? Divorce rates tell us differently! Do you want to find out more information on gender observations involving trust? Read on to see what happens to this couple’s behavior, when a male doctor and a female nurse are not on the same page concerning their patient…..
Husband goes to the doctor to see about his gout. He is told to go get some blood tests done and come back in 1 week. He does and the doctor tells him everything looks good, except for your uric acid level is high. Then he turns around and leaves the examining room. The husband sat waiting for the doctor to return. Then the nurse walks in and gives him a prescription and tells him, “This is for the pain and inflammation for the gout. You can have it filled at the pharmacy across the street. The doctor wants to see you in 3 months, stop by the appointment desk at the front to schedule your appointment.” Husband makes appointment and goes straight home because the pharmacy is closed by the time he gets out of the doctor‘s office.
Next day, the wife drops off the prescription at the same pharmacy to have it filled because the husband is at work. She is told by the pharmacy assistant that it will not be ready until the late afternoon. Husband comes home from work and they both go to pick up the prescription on their way to grab a bit to eat at a restrurant. They are waited on promptly and are asked to pay for the prescription, which they do. Then the pharmacy assistant asks if he has ever taken this prescription before. He says, “no.” She told him to step to the next counter and she will have the pharmacist explain what is it for and the side effects that it could cause. The pharmacist explains that this medication is for your heart and to lower your cholesterol and places the medicine down on the counter. The husband picks up the medicine, throws it in the plastic bag and says, “That is the wrong medicine! I am supposed to have medicine for pain and inflammation for my gout!” Pharmacist says, “Let me see the bottle so I can make sure that there is no mistake.” Husband says, “No, you already saw the bottle and told me it was for my heart and to lower my cholesterol!” The pharmacist insisted again to see the bottle, so he could compare the prescription with the hard copy that was originally given to fill. Husband said, “No!” Then the wife said to her husband, “Let him compare it to the prescription that I brought in to be filled, so we can find out what is going on. If they made a mistake, then it can be corrected here and now.” The husband insisted that the pharmacist go get the hard copy and then compare it in front of them. Pharmacist brought the hard copy, compared it with them, and said, “The medication filled is the same medicine on the prescription’s hard copy. You will have to see your doctor if there is a concern about what he prescribed.” Husband storms out of the pharmacy, while the wife tells the pharmacist, “thank you for all your help.”
When the wife comes out of the pharmacy, she sees her husband heading for the doctor’s office across the street and runs to follow him. Finally catching up with him at the elevators, she tells him to calm down before talking to the doctor’s office. He storms into the doctor’s office and slams down the bottle of medicine in front of the receptionist. She asks, “Can I help you, sir?” He says, “I want to know why I was prescribed heart and cholesterol medication, when I was told by the nurse that this medication is for pain and inflammation for my gout? I want to see the doctor!” She replies, “Let me get someone to help you. Your doctor is not in the office today.” He says, “Then I want to see the nurse who gave me this prescription!” She replied, “She isn’t here either today. I can let you speak to another doctor or nurse, if you would like.” He said, “Yes, I want to get this cleared up today!” The wife, who is clearly upset with her husband’s behavior, decides to sit down in the lounge to wait for him, rather than witness his outbursts all over again.
The husband explains everything to another doctor and nurse. This doctor, who is looking over his records, is a cardiologist. He explains to the husband that he needs to take this medicine because the blood tests revealed very high levels of his triglyriseriods that cause concern for his cholesterol and heart. Husband said, “My doctor told me everything looks good, except my uric acid is high and the nurse told me that this prescription was for pain and inflammation for my gout!” Doctor replies, “I don’t know what you were told and I am not going to get into that with you. I only know what I see from your records here.” Husband storms out of the doctor’s office, right past his wife and straight for the elevators. The wife says, “thank you” to the receptionist and runs to the elevators asking him, “What happened in there? Did you talk to a doctor?” Husband shouts, “They don’t know what they are doing or talking about! I am not going to take this medicine!”
Do you think a trust was broken here? Was the nurse and doctor on the same page concerning the patient? What about the wife running after her husband, then getting the brunt of his outbursts? Did he even consider his wife at all in all of this? Should we question any of his or her behavior? And where is the prescription for the pain and inflammation for the gout? What is your gender observations telling you about how men and women treat each other in stressful situations, especially concerning trust issues????
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Thursday, June 10, 2010
Thursday, June 3, 2010
After All, We Are Friends
By Sandy Cabral
Do you think that men are more unfaithful than women in their relationship? Would you say it is in their nature to be? Statistics show that more men cheat in the relationship. What has been your own gender observations concerning this question? Why do you think men are more proned to violate the trust with their significant other? Does it involve the intimacy they seek in the relationship that they do not presently have? Take for instance this friendly couple’s situation…..
Bill and Meg have been married for 7 years and expecting their second child in a few months. Their good friends are John and Kim, who have no children. Bill and John work together at the same company. Kim works as a home interior designer and Meg is a stay at home Mom with a daughter 3yrs. old and a baby on the way. When John was sent out west by the company to do research for a few months, he asked Bill if Kim could call him and Meg, if she needed anything major, because they had no relatives living there to help. Bill told him yes, it would be fine. After all, they are all friends!
Around 3 weeks after John had gone out west, Kim started calling Bill to come over to fix this or that in the house. Meg began to notice that this was becoming too frequent. Every weekend for 2 months straight, he was over at Kim’s house fixing something. Meg, who was now a week away from her due date, received a message on the answering machine at 3:00pm from Kim, saying that she had made Bill a special dinner to thank him for all of his help in fixing things around the house. She went on to say that she had invited him over for the dinner after he got off work today at 3:30pm and she needed him to fix the pipes under the sink that were leaking.
When 8:00pm rolled around and Bill wasn’t home yet, Meg called Kim’s house, but no one answered the phone and she noticed that the answering machine wasn’t on to take her message. Then when midnight came, she called again with the same results. Meg stayed up all night waiting for him to come home. At 4:00am she woke her daughter, placed her in the car seat and drove off to Kim’s house on the other side of town.
She parked the car down the street in view of Kim’s house. Meg’s daughter was sound asleep in her car seat. She waited for a hour and then Bill walked out of the house with Kim’s arm around his waist. They paused at Bill’s truck as Kim kissed him over and over again. Meg couldn’t believe her eyes, but knew that she had confirmed their affair. She waited until Bill drove off, went to a pay phone crying and called John to tell him the truth.
How would you have handled this gender observation? Do you think Meg did the right thing by telling John? Do you think that Bill lacked sex from Meg being pregnant, has anything to do with what happened? And what about Kim? Does she really miss her husband, John? I’d say that Kim got her pipes fixed, wouldn’t you? Did John set this situation up by making the mistake of trusting his friend while he is clear out west? Can we really place our trust in anyone when it comes to a man and a woman being together alone? What is you gender observations telling you? After all, they were friends!
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Do you think that men are more unfaithful than women in their relationship? Would you say it is in their nature to be? Statistics show that more men cheat in the relationship. What has been your own gender observations concerning this question? Why do you think men are more proned to violate the trust with their significant other? Does it involve the intimacy they seek in the relationship that they do not presently have? Take for instance this friendly couple’s situation…..
Bill and Meg have been married for 7 years and expecting their second child in a few months. Their good friends are John and Kim, who have no children. Bill and John work together at the same company. Kim works as a home interior designer and Meg is a stay at home Mom with a daughter 3yrs. old and a baby on the way. When John was sent out west by the company to do research for a few months, he asked Bill if Kim could call him and Meg, if she needed anything major, because they had no relatives living there to help. Bill told him yes, it would be fine. After all, they are all friends!
Around 3 weeks after John had gone out west, Kim started calling Bill to come over to fix this or that in the house. Meg began to notice that this was becoming too frequent. Every weekend for 2 months straight, he was over at Kim’s house fixing something. Meg, who was now a week away from her due date, received a message on the answering machine at 3:00pm from Kim, saying that she had made Bill a special dinner to thank him for all of his help in fixing things around the house. She went on to say that she had invited him over for the dinner after he got off work today at 3:30pm and she needed him to fix the pipes under the sink that were leaking.
When 8:00pm rolled around and Bill wasn’t home yet, Meg called Kim’s house, but no one answered the phone and she noticed that the answering machine wasn’t on to take her message. Then when midnight came, she called again with the same results. Meg stayed up all night waiting for him to come home. At 4:00am she woke her daughter, placed her in the car seat and drove off to Kim’s house on the other side of town.
She parked the car down the street in view of Kim’s house. Meg’s daughter was sound asleep in her car seat. She waited for a hour and then Bill walked out of the house with Kim’s arm around his waist. They paused at Bill’s truck as Kim kissed him over and over again. Meg couldn’t believe her eyes, but knew that she had confirmed their affair. She waited until Bill drove off, went to a pay phone crying and called John to tell him the truth.
How would you have handled this gender observation? Do you think Meg did the right thing by telling John? Do you think that Bill lacked sex from Meg being pregnant, has anything to do with what happened? And what about Kim? Does she really miss her husband, John? I’d say that Kim got her pipes fixed, wouldn’t you? Did John set this situation up by making the mistake of trusting his friend while he is clear out west? Can we really place our trust in anyone when it comes to a man and a woman being together alone? What is you gender observations telling you? After all, they were friends!
Click on the comments below and let me know what you think?
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Also click on Sandy’s Bookstore at the top right side of this page to see more insightful e-book materials to answer relationship questions as well as other interests you may have!
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