After All, We Are Friends

By Sandy Cabral

Do you think that men are more unfaithful than women in their relationship? Would you say it is in their nature to be? Statistics show that more men cheat in the relationship. What has been your own gender observations concerning this question? Why do you think men are more proned to violate the trust with their significant other? Does it involve the intimacy they seek in the relationship that they do not presently have? Take for instance this friendly couple’s situation…..

Bill and Meg have been married for 7 years and expecting their second child in a few months. Their good friends are John and Kim, who have no children. Bill and John work together at the same company. Kim works as a home interior designer and Meg is a stay at home Mom with a daughter 3yrs. old and a baby on the way. When John was sent out west by the company to do research for a few months, he asked Bill if Kim could call him and Meg, if she needed anything major, because they had no relatives living there to help. Bill told him yes, it would be fine. After all, they are all friends!

Around 3 weeks after John had gone out west, Kim started calling Bill to come over to fix this or that in the house. Meg began to notice that this was becoming too frequent. Every weekend for 2 months straight, he was over at Kim’s house fixing something. Meg, who was now a week away from her due date, received a message on the answering machine at 3:00pm from Kim, saying that she had made Bill a special dinner to thank him for all of his help in fixing things around the house. She went on to say that she had invited him over for the dinner after he got off work today at 3:30pm and she needed him to fix the pipes under the sink that were leaking.

When 8:00pm rolled around and Bill wasn’t home yet, Meg called Kim’s house, but no one answered the phone and she noticed that the answering machine wasn’t on to take her message. Then when midnight came, she called again with the same results. Meg stayed up all night waiting for him to come home. At 4:00am she woke her daughter, placed her in the car seat and drove off to Kim’s house on the other side of town.

She parked the car down the street in view of Kim’s house. Meg’s daughter was sound asleep in her car seat. She waited for a hour and then Bill walked out of the house with Kim’s arm around his waist. They paused at Bill’s truck as Kim kissed him over and over again. Meg couldn’t believe her eyes, but knew that she had confirmed their affair. She waited until Bill drove off, went to a pay phone crying and called John to tell him the truth.

How would you have handled this gender observation? Do you think Meg did the right thing by telling John? Do you think that Bill lacked sex from Meg being pregnant, has anything to do with what happened? And what about Kim? Does she really miss her husband, John? I’d say that Kim got her pipes fixed, wouldn’t you? Did John set this situation up by making the mistake of trusting his friend while he is clear out west? Can we really place our trust in anyone when it comes to a man and a woman being together alone? What is you gender observations telling you? After all, they were friends!

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